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Committee members, the clerk has advised me that there is a quorum present and that all witnesses and members appearing virtually have had their sound quality verified, so I will call this meeting to order.
Welcome to meeting number 92 of the House of Commons Standing Committee on Human Resources, Skills and Social Development and the Status of Persons with Disabilities. Pursuant to the order of reference of Wednesday, September 30, 2023, the committee will continue its consideration of Bill , an act to amend the Employment Insurance Act and the Canada Labour Code regarding adoptive and intended parents.
Today's meeting is taking place in a hybrid format, pursuant to the Standing Orders. Members and witnesses are attending in person in the room and virtually as well.
I will remind those in the room and those attending virtually that you have the option to choose the official language of your choice. If there is a disruption in the translation, please get my attention and I will suspend while it's being clarified. Those of you attending virtually can use the globe symbol on the bottom of your Surface screen. Click on it, and choose the official language that you wish to participate in. Those attending in the room, please keep your earpiece away from the microphone for the protection of the interpreters.
Appearing with us today, in the room, we have Cathy Murphy, chairperson and adoptive parent, for the Child and Youth Permanency Council of Canada. Then, by video conference and as an individual, we have Shelley Rottenberg, instructional assistant.
We will begin the first hour with an opening statement from Ms. Rottenberg.
Ms. Rottenberg, you have five minutes for your opening statement.
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Hello. My name is Shelley Rottenberg. It's a pleasure to be attending this meeting as a witness today.
I'm the secretary for the Child and Youth Permanency Council of Canada, the co-president of China's Children International, and the associate director for engagement and social media for Asian Adoptees of Canada. I will be speaking based on my lived experience as a transracial international adoptee. I was born in China during the one-child policy and adopted to Canada by a single mother when I was a baby.
I support the government providing 15 additional weeks of attachment leave for employment insurance benefits for adoptive parents. If this had been available to my mom when she adopted me, it would have greatly benefited our family. At the time, my mom was not able to take any leave of absence, except for the time it took to travel to China. We do not have any extended family who live close to us, so she had to rely on friends and babysitters to look after me while she worked.
Adoptive parents deserve equal access to parental leave benefits. It is especially important for parents who adopt a baby or child from a different country, culture or racial background because time is not only needed for the parent and child to bond. The adoptee also needs adequate time to adjust to other new unique changes in environment, language, customs, etc.
Growing up, it was always clear to me what I had gained through adoption. I am very grateful for my mom and sister and for all the opportunities I've had throughout my life, although people often forget about the circumstances that made adoption necessary. My adoption paperwork says that I was abandoned at the front door of a garment factory and then brought to a police station and then the orphanage. I was then placed in a foster home in China until my mom became my legal guardian and brought me home to Canada.
I was labelled with failure to thrive because I was very sick when my mom adopted me. I had bronchitis and couldn't keep food down at first. Now that I'm older, when I reflect on my first couple of years of life, I am both in awe and saddened by all of the hardships that I went through as an infant. Research shows how important the earliest years of life are in terms of a child's development. Therefore, given all of the major life changes that can come with adoption, and considering the potential losses of birth family, culture and country, it is crucial that parents have plenty of time to support their adopted baby or child in the beginning stages of this journey.
Even if the adopted baby or child appears well adjusted, additional time to form strong and secure attachments with adoptive parents will only benefit the adoptee and better set them up for success.
That concludes my statement. Thank you so much, everyone, for your time, and at any point I'm happy to answer questions.
Thank you.
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Thank you, Shelley. That was well said.
Good afternoon. My name is Cathy Murphy, and I'm the chairperson at the Child and Youth Permanency Council of Canada.
I worked in child welfare and social services for just over 35 years and retired in this past year. I've had the true privilege of working with adoptive families, kinship caregivers and customary caregivers right across Canada, but most importantly today, I am an adoptive parent. My children, who are now young adults, continue to teach me every day why time to attach is so important for every permanency family in Canada.
There was a time not so long ago when our children—my son, now 32, and my daughter, now 27 years of age—joined our family through adoption. Our son lived in the child welfare system, and our daughter was adopted from China. Our family has had experience with both public adoption and international adoption. Each of our children has their own unique strengths and their own unique challenges.
Our son had six placements in the child welfare system before he joined our family as a preschooler. We now know that he is living with fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. We had no idea at the time. His experiences in his earlier life taught him that the world was not a safe or predictable place, and he had difficulty trusting. Our daughter had two placements—with her first family and foster family, and then with the orphanage—before she joined our family at one year of age.
When our son first came to us, we were introduced to him as “Mommy Cathy” and “Daddy Jim”. My husband is a fire chief here in Ottawa, and for any of you who know little boys and little girls, they love firefighters. My son was no different. He adored his daddy from day one.
I did not become “Mommy Cathy”. I was, “Hey lady” out of the side of his mouth for many years. “Hey lady” was the response I would get if I asked him to do something or if I tried to play with him. “Hey lady” was where I was told to sit, which was outside our kitchen, outside our dining room at dinnertime.
Three and a half years after our son joined our family, it was at bath-time one night, and we had been going through the same consistent routine every night. He loved Batman figures and all things comic book, and he had them all in the bathtub with him that night. He looked up and said, “Hmm. You a very, very good mama. Did you know that?” It still breaks my heart to this day because it took him three and a half years to say the word “mama”.
He is now 32 and has lived through some incredible times, as has our family, but I can tell you that not for one single moment have I ever regretted that connection or the incredible commitment that comes with being adoptive parents. What I know first-hand is what they need to be successful and strong and to be survivors, and what our kids need as well.
I have truly had the honour of working with thousands of adoptive families: kinships, which are just extended grandparents, and perhaps aunties and uncles; and customary caregivers, which are indigenous families across Canada. I've learned that every child and youth I met needed time to adapt and to adjust to their new setting and family before the attachment process could even begin.
Many children and youth, just like my son, have learned to mistrust. Their worlds were not safe and not predictable, and their caregivers let them down time and time again. They formed anxious attachments or, in the case of my son, may have had difficulty forming any attachment at all because of the many caregivers they've had in their lives and the developmental trauma they may have experienced.
We can build trust by meeting our children and youth where they are, by showing up for them over and over again, by smiling even when you're called “Hey lady” and by celebrating when, three and a half years later, you're finally called “mama”. Then very slowly, they may begin to realize that we are dependable, that we are reliable and that we might—and I emphasize might—be worthy of their trust. The attachment process begins with trepidation, and guess what. It doesn't ever end. It's tested many times over the weeks, months and years to come, because they learned at a very early age that the world is not a safe place.
Every permanency family, whether customary caregiver, kinship caregiver or adoptive parent, has their own unique circumstances. Some parents will have time to prepare for their child or youth to join their family. For others, it will happen very quickly, actually in the middle of the night or overnight, sometimes without warning because the circumstances are beyond the control of the child or youth. These families will need resources. They will need support. They will need connections. They will need to know that their government stands with them during some very trying and difficult times.
What is “time to attach”? It's an additional 15-week attachment leave for customary caregivers, kinship caregivers and adoptive parents. It's calling upon our Canadian government to treat all families equally and fairly—equitable treatment.
Truth be told, the children and youth in my house and the children and youth I've had the privilege of working with need much more than an additional 15-week attachment leave, but by delivering on this attachment leave promise, the Government of Canada would be standing up for families who are supporting the needs of these children and youth, and yes, this is not insignificant.
In Canada, there are approximately 30,000 children and youth living in our child welfare system. Each year, approximately 1,700 of those children and youth find permanency families. Youth are aging out of our child welfare system at an alarming rate, and without permanency, their outcomes are not good. We all need to care about and advocate for the children and youth living in our child welfare system.
We also need to acknowledge that more than half of those children and youth are African Canadian and indigenous. Less than 0.3% of all Canadians have spent time in the child welfare system—less than 0.3%—but more than 65% of all unhoused Canadians have spent time in the child welfare system. Listen to that again: Less than 0.3% of all Canadians have ever spent time in the child welfare system, but more than 65% of all unhoused Canadians have spent time in the system.
We need to raise the age at which youth age out of the child welfare system—in every province and territory in Canada—and lower these statistics. We need to promote and support older child and youth adoptions in Canada and support different forms of permanency. Most children and youth in the system are over 10 years of age now, maybe in a sibling group, and maybe living with visible or invisible special needs. Our son was diagnosed with fetal alcohol spectrum disorder at the age of 12 and required a host of resources that we were more than happy to tap into in order for him to reach his highest potential.
Today, I'm advocating for time to attach, because it matters. It matters to the children and youth. It matters to their families.
Thank you very much.
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Yes, that was my question.
As you can see, the government has already made commitments. I don't want to make you play politics, but the Liberal government has committed to changing our employment insurance system in order to completely reform it.
Biological parents are given 15 weeks, and we'd like adoptive parents to get the same thing. We would like equity. Although the government has made a commitment, the reform hasn't happened yet. This bill is therefore an opportunity to correct some discrimination. Perhaps society has evolved enough to make this happen as well.
We also talk about the importance of parental presence in adoption cases. It's also important that parents not have to worry about their job and that they be able to take the time to support these fine individuals, like you, whom they have chosen to adopt. It's a wonderful choice.
Do you think this bill would have made a difference for your parents, Ms. Rottenberg?
Thank you, Ms. Rottenberg and Ms. Murphy.
I think we are pretty much in agreement on the importance of this, but having you as witnesses to our committee allows us to put on the parliamentary record the broader issues that we often don't get a chance to discuss.
In my 19 years of political life, I've never gotten the opportunity to quote my favourite quote of all, from Dostoevsky in The Brothers Karamazov: “I am sorry I can say nothing to console you, for love in action is a harsh and dreadful thing.... Love in dreams is greedy for immediate action, rapidly performed and in the sight of all.... But active love is labor and fortitude”.
I want to start with that because of the question of the enormous undertaking of adoption.
Let's begin, Ms. Murphy. You've said that you adopted internationally. I have people in my life who were adopted from very precarious situations internationally and who blossomed, but we also know that there are serious questions raised about international adoption: white saviourism, loss of culture, loss of identity and people who think they want to be parents and then aren't.
How do you frame this extraordinary effort of bringing a child from a completely different culture into our country? How do we make sure that it works and that it will be for the long term and for the benefit of all?
Ms. Murphy, you're the chairperson of the Child and Youth Permanency Council of Canada. You mentioned the 30,000 who are in child welfare.
I represent the region of Treaty 9, and child welfare is a very dark word in our region. We have lost so many beautiful children to a system in which it didn't seem like those children mattered.
I think of Courtney Scott, who was 16 years old. She was taken with her sister from Fort Albany and died in a fire in a house in Orléans, 2,000 kilometres from her family. We lost our child advocate in Ontario. Doug Ford fired Irwin Elman. We are very concerned in our region about children being taken out.
You have talked about kinship and customary care. How do you see that we make sure that the children who have to be taken from their parents, maybe because of drugs, violence or other problems, are still able to be cared for in the kind of loving, cultural support that they are entitled to and that our society must insist on?
Thank you so much to our witnesses. It's a very emotional topic.
I can't help but think as a mom that it is literally the exact same story. I didn't adopt my children, but it's about showing up for your kids when they go through their ebbs and flows and they push you away: “Hey, lady” and “You're the worst mom.” You go through that as a mother, as a parent. Showing up for your kids is tough. It's really tough. You spoke to me a lot there, Cathy, and it's very emotional. I can feel in the room that essence.
I'm so grateful that my colleague Rosemary has brought forth this legislation. I want to get into the nuts and bolts of it.
I think that data is really critical when we look at legislation, because the issue is emotional, but I also think that the data tells the story of investment.
I want you to, if you can, Cathy.... Please, can I call you Cathy, Ms. Murphy?
Ms. Murphy, I'm very pleased and interested in your statement on the need for the amendment on kinship and customary care. We know that Bill has devolved the role for establishing child welfare codes to first nations and Inuit communities. It is so important.
In communities I represent, we have the kokums, the grandmothers, who are raising children. We have cousins and neighbours who are raising children. They are raising them with love, but they are often never recognized. We fight like hell to get them the child tax benefit because we have to prove it again and again. These are very natural ways that children are being brought into safe environments when they are in unsafe environments, when they are at risk or when the parents are not in a position to look after the children. In one of the communities I was in, they said, “We aren't going to take the children out of the homes; we're going to take the parents out of the homes. The children should have safe homes. If the parents are the ones causing problems, we'll take them out, and we'll look after the children in their home.”
From your work, what you've seen and your experience with your council, how important is it to frame language around the recognition of those family realities, for protecting and building loving homes for children?
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Committee members, the witnesses have been cleared. I will resume the meeting.
I ask committee members to take their seats while we introduce the witnesses for the last round.
Appearing in the room—and she'll do extremely well—is Cassaundra Eisner, student. We have, appearing virtually, Carolyn McLeod. Carolyn is a professor at Western University.
Welcome to the committee. We'll begin.
Cassaundra told me that she was a bit nervous. I told her to ignore everybody who was looking at her and to relax.
Cassaundra, you have the floor. You can make comments, as you choose, for up to five minutes or whatever time you like.
Please relax, and tell us what you want to.
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Hello. My name is Cassaundra Eisner, and I am 23 years old.
I was placed in the foster care system in New Brunswick at the age of nine and found my forever family at the age of 11. I am a lived expert from the child welfare system.
Over the years, I have been a strong advocate for youth in care and for adoptive families through volunteer work with the New Brunswick Adoption Foundation, the New Brunswick Youth In Care Network and with PRIDE panels. If you're unfamiliar with PRIDE panels, they're training for future permanency families and supports. I am currently a director on the board of the Child and Youth Permanency Council of Canada.
As I already shared, I was 11 when I joined my adoptive family. Although I would argue that my adoptive family is my real family, that was not always the case. I moved in shortly after meeting them and after having meetings and sleepovers. Moving in with people who were recently strangers is intimidating and very scary. Time to attach is something that would have helped that 11-year-old little girl.
When it comes to joining a new family, there are lots of mixed emotions: fear, anxiety and excitement, just to name a few. This is a huge life change for anyone, especially someone who has experienced developmental trauma from factors that were out of their control.
It is important to know that these factors are not the fault of the child or youth. Due to these unfortunate circumstances and experiences, it can be very difficult to attach and to build a trusting relationship with new people, especially caregivers. The extra time given for attachment in these situations is important to be able to build stronger and healthier relationships, and to allow for more time to heal and to build trust in these new situations.
I am here today from New Brunswick to tell you that “Time to Attach” is a very important campaign, and it's something that would benefit many youth and children who are coming into or are already in the system and are in need of permanent support systems.
Thank you for your time and consideration on something that is very near and dear to my heart.
My name is Carolyn McLeod, as was said. I'm a professor of philosophy at Western University. I'm pleased to be able to speak to the standing committee on the value of the sorts of benefits laid out in Bill .
The relative credentials that I have are that I'm the lead author of a report you may have seen called “Time to Attach: An Argument in Favour of EI Attachment Benefits”.
I'm an adoptive parent of two children who came to us at ages three and six. I was the founding chair of the board of directors for Adopt4Life. I am an expert, academically, on the ethical dimensions of forming families through adoption or through assisted or unassisted reproduction, and I've contributed to public policy in these areas.
I was recently recognized for this work by the Royal Society of Canada, of which I am now a fellow.
My brief comments will centre on the “Time to Attach” report, which discusses the need for attachment benefits. We argue in favour of having these benefits for the sake of children who find permanency through adoption, kinship or customary care.
Unlike Bill , we do not touch on surrogacy, which is not to say that our argument could not be extended to children born of surrogacy. I won't comment one way or another on that issue. Rather, I just want to summarize our main argument that children in adoptive, kinship or customary care families need more time to attach.
Among those families, we're focused on those who provide permanency to children, and so obtain permanent, legal custody of their children. Many of these families do legally adopt their children, but some don't, and some who do adopt them don't identify as adoptive families.
Regardless, for simplicity, we use the language of adoption to refer to all of them, and we acknowledge how imperfect that language is.
Just to summarize our main argument, I'm going to read here from the executive summary.
[The Time to Attach] report highlights a problem in Canada’s system of parental leave benefits, which is that it fails to recognize the unique challenges that tend to accompany an adoption.... Consider that adoptive parents are eligible only for what the government calls ‘parental benefits,’ whereas biological parents are eligible for parental benefits plus ‘maternity benefits.’ The purpose of maternity benefits is to respond to the special challenges that accompany pregnancy and birth. But there are no comparable benefits for adoptive parents, none that respond to needs that are unique to their families compared to biological ones.
What the system does, then, is treat adoption as though it is parenting minus pregnancy and birth. On this view, there is nothing special about adoption; it is like any other form of parenting except that it didn’t begin with a pregnancy and birth. But such claims about adoption are patently false.
[Our] report advocates for the introduction of attachment benefits for adoptive parents. Our main argument in favour of these benefits proceeds as follows. Central among the unique challenges that adoptive parents face is that of encouraging their child to attach to them as their parent or primary caregiver. While all parents can experience difficulties with attachment and bonding...the difficulties are heightened and much more common with adoption than with biological reproduction. That is true even when the adoptive parents have a kinship relationship to the child, because children tend to lack the kind of attachment we’re focused on with kin who are not their biological parents.
Adopted children often have trouble forming secure attachments to their new parents, understandably so given the kinds of experiences they tend to have before being adopted. Relevant experiences include the loss or disruption of their connection to birth parents, maltreatment by parents or caregivers, and multiple placements from foster care. The result is often an ‘insecure pattern of attachment,’ as it is called in the psychological literature. This condition affects not only one’s ability to form attachments with others, but also one’s overall social, emotional, and cognitive development.
Despite these difficulties, adoption has been shown to be effective in helping children develop more healthy patterns of attachment. This outcome takes time, however, as well as patience and commitment on the part of adoptive parents. It is particularly important that adoptive parents have time at the beginning of an adoption placement to help their child grieve the loss of previous attachments or minimize [that loss] through openness to kin, where appropriate. At the same time, they need the child to start attaching to them as their parent, which in turn will help them bond to the child.
Attachment is therefore a challenge with most adoptions, which makes adoption unique compared to biological parenthood....
...adoption is not parenting minus pregnancy and birth. Instead, it involves providing love and security to a child who once had these things but lost them or who may have never had them before. The Canadian government needs to recognize this fact and also value adoption. It therefore should create a whole new category of benefits: attachment benefits....
That's our central argument in the report, which we defended in various ways. For example, we draw on social scientific literature on attachment and adoption to show that adopted children need more time to attach than they're currently given in Canada. We also argue that legal, moral and international standards support giving the children this time and having equal leave benefits for adoptive and biological families.
Interestingly, our research shows that Canada is an outlier among comparator nations like Australia, the U.K. and Germany in not offering the same or very similar leave entitlements to adoptive parents as it does for biological ones.
Finally, our report summarizes the result of a survey we did of 974 adoptive parents in Canada. Those results were overwhelmingly positive in favour of attachment benefits.
At this point, I'm happy to answer questions you have about the research or related matters. I'll do that to the best of my ability without my co-authors by my side. Some of them have more expertise than I in certain aspects of the report.
Thank you for this opportunity to highlight the work we did on “Time to Attach”.
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Thank you very much, Chair.
I'd like to thank Ms. McLeod for being here and sharing her insight, testimony and experience.
Also, Ms. Eisner, thank you so much. You did wonderfully. I want to thank you for your courage and your bravery, and for being willing to share vulnerability. I think that's so important, especially in places like this, which sometimes.... It's not “sometimes”. This place is very rarely friendly to vulnerability, so I want to thank you so much. You did such a good job, and you're so well-spoken. Thank you so much for taking the time to be here and share.
I would like to start with you, if that's okay, Ms. Eisner.
How important is it for children and youth who are adopted to build attachments with their new family?
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Thank you so much, Chair.
Thank you to our witnesses.
I have three daughters. Two are in their thirties and one is in her twenties. When it's a bad day for one of my daughters, it's a super bad day for my wife, and it's a really bad day for me until I find a way to fix something. I guess that's the power of attachment. When my daughters were born at home, the midwife said that, for the next 10 days, the mother and the baby were to stay in that bed. They're not on the phone and all the other stuff in the world just has to stop. That was attachment.
I never really thought much about how attachment happens with a child or with a baby. We're talking about something here that is more intentional. It's something that has to be constructed, in a sense.
Ms. Eisner, you're an expert on this in a way that I'll never be. What does attachment mean to you? It's also a two-way street. Isn't that right?
How do you see it as someone who came into...? You were 11 at the time. How would you explain it to another young person who would be going into that situation? What is attachment and how do we make it work?
We do recommend, for older children who are adopted, that their parents have that additional leave. Some might argue...and it's true that in some countries, actually, there's an age limit on when parents can have additional leave or the same leave given to other adoptive families.
The presumption there is that while this child is in school all day the parents don't necessarily need the leave, but as we say in the report, it's equally important, whether the child is 15 or three, that the parents have the leave. The kids are going to go to school for part of that time, but parents might choose to home-school them, which for a certain period of time might be a good solution to deal with the attachment issue. Even if they go to school, being there for them in the morning, being there for them at lunchtime if they can come home for lunch and being there when they get off school, all of that is important for getting as much contact as you can have to encourage that attachment to happen.
You're not going to solve all attachment problems within a year of leave, but as our report says, there's evidence to show that significant improvement can happen within that first year, and that's true regardless of the age of the child. It's important to have that leave.
My second son was adopted at age six. I don't think he fully attached to me until probably about a year ago. He's now 13. Certainly, having the time with him at the beginning was crucial to get that process off the ground and get it working well.
Thanks to both of you.
Cassaundra, thank you. You're incredibly courageous to be here to tell your story. It's amazing. It's moving for us.
I feel a little odd, though, that we're talking about this particular piece of legislation. As I absorb what I'm hearing and what I'm feeling, I think to myself that 15 weeks of leave for time to attach seems like such a no-brainer. It feels a little dumb that we're talking about this, to be honest. How is it possible that we're talking about this?
As Ms. Murphy was speaking earlier, she made a comment about how she could “ask for the moon”, but she didn't because the time didn't necessarily permit.
I'm not sure you're allowed to speak any more, Ms. Murphy. Maybe Mr. Chair would permit that.
However, I would ask all of you, I guess, if you were to ask for the moon.... When I heard the numbers, the number of children in the child welfare system and the number who actually get adopted.... You were nine by the time you were adopted. How old were you?
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You were 11. I'm sorry—my apologies.
I think to myself, what could we do to increase the number of people who wanted to adopt—if we made it possible for them to adopt—and who could provide that connection? I think about this in terms of the moral imperative: that it behooves us as Canadians in one of the most affluent societies in the history of the world to protect children.
I think about it in an economic context too, because when you think about 65% of persons who are unhoused having been in the child welfare system, there's a pretty direct correlation to that lack of attachment, the lack of connection, the lack of the power of love and to being unable to love.
This is a no-brainer. We just have to get this done, and hurry up and get it done. What would you do if you were to say, “Scott Aitchison, wave your magic wand and just fix this”? Give me some ideas, because I think that's what we should be truly fighting for.
Thanks to the witnesses who are in attendance here today.
I'm going to follow up on some of the questions that were just asked.
When I look back at the history of benefits that have been provided to parents, I see that, way back in the year 1971 when I was born, my mother would have received 15 weeks of maternity benefits in that year. As we look through the 1990s and into the the 2000s, we witness the introduction of parental benefits provided to both parents and the extension of the weeks that were provided, and here we are today.
It's been a long journey, if you look back at the history, in terms of the benefits that have been provided. If I refer to Madame Chabot's reference to unions, all of these gains have been made by people pushing government—unions, specifically, through collective bargaining processes—and fighting for additional benefits. It's been a real collective effort, and both Ms. Eisner and Professor McLeod are a big part of that today, as has been recognized by other committee members. It's been quite a journey and a long journey.
Some of the questions I would have along those lines are in terms of what the gap is right now between where Canada is.... Professor McLeod talked about Canada being an outlier. What's the gap right now in terms of the gold standard of benefits that have been provided—I think you just referenced a couple in your last answer—and where we're at now? It almost seems like a given, as was referenced, that we're going to pass this and that it's just a matter of in what shape or form.
How do we change the narrative and the legislation to ensure that we're not an outlier on a go-forward basis?
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Some of my colleagues have asked about ways to improve the situation. In my opinion, correcting inequity in the employment insurance system would be a step in the right direction, because we're talking about 15 weeks of attachment benefits, the employment relationship and bonding with the child. For a parent, those things really matter.
I just want to remind you that the employment insurance system is no silver bullet, and that it's important we move forward. These parental benefits won't make parents any richer, because we're talking about an income replacement rate of up to 55% of the claimant's assessment. Unfortunately, if things go sideways along the way, if they lose their job, for example, the situation could deteriorate in terms of benefits.
So we will fix what needs to be fixed, but it should be part of a comprehensive reform of the employment insurance system, which we're expecting and which would provide additional support in these situations.
If I understand correctly, an amendment should at least be made so that the parent can choose to take the 15‑week parental leave and has the flexibility to decide how many weeks of leave they want to take before and after the child's arrival. I understand that's a desirable amendment we could make as parliamentarians.
Ms. McLeod, did I understand your intention when you talked about flexibility?
I have a fair amount of experience on the indigenous front. It is often a dark story, but there are some extraordinary young people we've seen. I live in a little working-class town, so we get to know most of the kids.
One of my concerns, which I've always felt, is that, for children who were in the foster care system, it was almost as if there was a mark that wasn't stated. When they needed extra help at school, it was “well...you know.” If they got in trouble with the police, it was “well...you know.” They didn't have the love that they needed.
I've known some of these young people and seen them grow up. I was in a youth group with some of them. Some of them are extraordinary. However, there's that need to have someone in your corner.
Ms. Eisner, if you don't mind.... I don't want to pry, but you speak with a lot of young people.
For the older children in the system, how important is it to know that, when something happens at school or when something happens, someone is there, that an adult is going to be there to have their backs, tell them they are loved and say, “You know what? Don't worry about it. It's just another day at school. You're going to be amazing.”
It's that extra bit of support. I'm not saying it's not there with foster parents, but that's my general impression from the kids I knew growing up.